BPD Things
Borderline Personality Disorder is a severe mental illness in which the sufferer experiences instability in moods, emotions, relationships, and behavior. Often, the sufferer falls victim to self-injury and other harmful impulses. BPD has a very negative stigma surrounding it, and sufferers may be seen as scary, dangerous, and frustrating, by friends, family, and even their own therapists. However, there is hope and there is support. One day, people will understand.
Please note: Just because you can relate to the above description or any of the posts on here, does not mean you have BPD. Some of the posts can relate to any mental illness, or anyone in general. BPD is something you do NOT want. If you legitimately think you might have it, please see a professional to be sure and to get help.
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Sorry, but shit is worse than ever in my world right now. I have also had two people offer to be an admin but then bail out and never reply to any of my messages. So, that’s annoying, on top of everything else. So, anyways, no new posts for a bit. I’m not going anywhere permanently, don’t worry. I’m just fucking hurting and frustrated and need a bit of time. Take care of yourselves, everyone. I’ll try to do the same.
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Doubting him is understandable. It is hard to trust someone who has lied so much. Trust takes a lot of time and effort to be built up, on both sides, and if he really wants you to trust him, he will have to work hard. But if you are with him simply because you like all the conflict and pain, that isn’t fair to either of you. If you expect him to work hard to gain your trust, then you need to have other reasons as to why you want to be with him. I don’t recommend staying with someone who hurts you, especially if a big reason is because you like it.
It isn’t really my place, and I’m sorry if I am way out of line. I just want things to work out.
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Oh, I feel like no one gives a shit, all the damn time. You are not alone in that at all. I hope you feel better, and know that you can always come here whenever you need to. <3
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Engaging in self-sabotaging behavior is a symptom of BPD, yes. If you have been diagnosed with BPD, then I’d say it might possibly be part of your illness. However, it might just be that you love him and don’t want to be without him, or you think it might be safer to be with him than without, etc. Many people stay in abusive relationships for reasons such as these, that don’t necessarily have anything to do with BPD at all.
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First of all, self-diagnosis is very risky. Perhaps she realized that BPD described how she was feeling, and now she feels she needs to act a certain way to fit all of the symptoms. Or perhaps her research has led her to feel bad about how she is and so she is reacting negatively. I do not know, but I would imagine she is feeling confused. I would recommend her to see a professional. Until she is ready for that, the best you can do is just be there for her. Tell her how you feel, because despite her confusion, she still needs to treat you with respect. If she doesn’t, keeping a bit of a distance from her while still being there is definitely okay. Good luck.
