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Hi Anon,

This is a tough one. If you’re living with your parents and smoking weed, I can understand their concern. I am a pro-drugs person but didn’t start until I was in my 20s and believe that it is a decision one should make as an adult if you can.

Are you seeing a therapist currently? Does he/she know about your weed consumption? I know it can help a lot with anxiety, but it does have side effects (like all drugs and medication) and it may not be the best for keeping your mood stable. Other anti-anxiety drugs may be better for you right now, both to help with the issue with your parents, and to help keep your mood more stable. If you’re really not smoking any now, would taking a drug test help prove to your parents that it’s not something you’re doing anymore?

I’m confused why they won’t let you get help if you’ve been diagnosed already. Perhaps the person who diagnosed you can talk to them directly if you give him/her a call or email. Are you under 18? Do you have any other resources you can turn to, e.g. through school, a religious leader, a family doctor? 

I hope maybe some of these thoughts help a bit. Best of luck to you!

~ Stephanie

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Hi Anonymous,

It sounds like you’re going through so much and I’m so sorry you’re in this pain. Are you currently seeing a therapist or psychiatrist? It sounds like you really need to talk to a professional who can honestly help with these feelings. It’s time to reach out for help more and not try and do it all on your own. 

Have you thought about writing a letter to your boyfriend and/or parents? Sometimes it can also be easier to put things in writing rather than verbally, at least for me. When you say a clinic, do you mean an inpatient facility? Sometimes that can be the best thing if you are actively feeling like harming yourself.

You’re not a poser and Borderline Personality Disorder is very real. I’m glad you made that promise, because it can help you to keep it, but it sounds like you need some additional help right now. Please talk to a mental health professional about this so you can get the care you need. We want you to stick around and you deserve to be happy.

xoxo

~ Stephanie

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Hi Anon,

It’s hard to know whether your therapist has negative feelings about BPD unless you ask. CBT can be problematic for those with BPD, just for the kinds of reasons you mention here. You might want to try bringing in something written down which would help with any nervousness you might have and give a clear list of symptoms for your therapist. I’ve found this page to be very helpful for preparing for an appointment like this, with things you can do and what you might expect.

What to do

• Write down any symptoms you or people close to you have noticed, and for how long.
• Write down key personal information, including traumatic events in your past and any current, major stressors.
• Make a list of your medical information, including other physical or mental health conditions and the names and amounts of medications or supplements you take.
• Take a family member or friend along, if possible. Someone who has known you for a long time may be able to share important information with the doctor or mental health professional, with your permission.
• Write down the questions you want to ask your doctor so that you can make the most of your appointment.

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Hi Anon,
Do you have any professional help? If you did, there is a lot of different therapy strategies that can help you. Maybe you could look into books you could read about bpd and ways to deal with your feelings.
It’s hard for other people to understand the inner turmoil that is experienced when having bpd. Maybe you could explain to them your feelings and how you can all work together as a team.
I hope it’s possible for you to get them to be more supportive.
Love and best wishes,
- Jes

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Hi Anon,
I think this is a completely normal response. Having bpd can obviously make us fixate on people, especially health professionals. I personally struggled with these kinds of thoughts and sometimes still do. It’s a process that you have to slowly work through and just be honest about how you are feeling in regards to your relationship. They might be able to give you some advice on how to combat the feelings you are experiencing.
Love and best wishes,
- Jes

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Hi Anon,
The most brilliant therapy for bpd is Dbt in my opinion.
The amazing thing about it is that it actually helps you retrain your thought processes and allows people to behave in a more liveable way. It’s pretty amazing, the research for Dbt is astounding.
If there is any way that you can join a Dbt group, you definitely should give it a go.
Love and best wishes,
- Jes

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Hi Anon,
I think that’s what my favourite part of being a part of this blog is the community that had been created. I’m very lucky to be here. Helping all of you makes everything worth while.
I’m so happy you enjoy it here :).
Love and best wishes,
- Jes

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Hi again,
I feel like all you can do is ask, but you cannot make anyone give you answers if they don’t want to.
If you don’t get what you’re after, then you should find ways to work through this without knowing.
The way I see it is if you have already broken up, what do you really need any explanations about? That isn’t going to change anything and will make you feel worse.
- Jes

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Hi Anon,
Breakups can be difficult and affect people in all different ways, it makes sense that you are feeling out of control but if you work through these feelings, it will get easier over time. It’s not something you can combat overnight. Make sure you don’t isolate yourself and spend time with the people you love. It is possible to be happy, you just need to make sure you don’t hide away. If you have a therapist, you can work through everything with them and maybe try some distress tolerance skills to help when you feel out of control.
Love and best wishes,
- Jes

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Hi Anon,
Have you tried any distress tolerance exercises? Dbt is pretty good at giving you help in regards to emotional help. If you haven’t done Dbt, then go onto dbtselfhelp and they give you lots of examples and exercises :).
Hope that helps,
- Jes